Acknowledgments

Foreword

Introduction: Lonely to the Core

1. What We Are Dealing With
" How Do I Know If I'm Addicted?"

2. The Dynamics of Sexual Addiction
What All Addicts Have in Common

3. Where We Start
Essential One: Aligning Ourselves with God

4. Enlisting the Help of Others
Essential Two: The Power of Genuine Friendship

5. Understanding the Mold
Essential Three: Exploring Family Issues

6. The Myth of No-Fault Victimization
Essential Four: Taking Ownership of Our Choices

7. The Divine Caricature
Essential Five: " Will the Real God Please Stand Up?"

8. Reclaiming the Grand Vision
Essential Six: The Biblical Basis of Our Identity

9. The Courage to Be Broken
Essential Seven: Admitting Our True State

10. The Unexpected Response
Essential Eight: Wrestling with Grace

11. The Frightening Agenda
Essential Nine: Facing Our Dark Side

12. The Hunt of the Malnourished Heart
Essential Ten: Dealing with the Lonely Abuser Within

13. Where Life Death Intersect
Essential Eleven: Bringing God into the Area of Need

14. Boasting in Our Weakness
Essential Twelve: Radical Honesty Its Evangelizing Effect

Postscript: Working Together

Appendix A: What Is a Wife to Do?
Help for Spouses of the Sexually Broken

Appendix B: The Twelve Essentials

Appendix C: Further Reading

Appendix D: Resources for Additional Help

Notes