The Marriage You Want: Moving Beyond Stereotypes for a Relationship Built on Scripture, New Data, and Emotional Health

This is a book based on facts and solid research, with heaps of statistical data to substantiate the authors' findings. Yet it's an easy read, and the audio recording is particularly enjoyable with Keith and Sheila narrating in turn. It's also revolutionary in the evangelical marriage-teaching world and is a must read if you want to know the truth about what makes a marriage truly beautiful. Highly recommended to anyone with an interest in seeing both partners flourish in marriage.

I wish this book was published when I was engaged.

It provides a healthy, data based understanding of marriage, revolving around the acronym “BARE”; balance, affection, responsibility, and emotional connection.

I highly reccomend this book for anyone, be they already married, engaged, or even just thinking about their future!

This is the book I'd been looking for! I wish I'd read this 10 years ago. I'm so thankful that this book has been written and good quailty, biblical, evidence-based marriage advice is out there, not only for growth in our own marriage but to point other too when marriage gets tricky.

This marriage book is based on solid scientific research and offers easy, practical solutions you can implement in your marriage. I was interested in this book because it focused on equality rather than gender stereotypes, this seemed like a more simple approach to me and much more Christ-like. This book has met and surpassed my expectations because they cover every aspect that is needed to create a thriving marriage in a kind and nonjudgmental way.

What stood out to me the most was the importance of the division of household labour and mental load. It is a much higher predictor of marriage flourishing than s*x or money – usually what we’re told are the two most important things – teamwork is the answer!

I’ve been married for 11 years and although my husband is a good willed man, I’ve felt the negative and often subtle teachings of purity culture and male entitlement have still been present. This book offers a guilt and shame free way of looking at marriage, that just makes so much sense. The focus is on both partners following Jesus and aiming to look more and

more like Him.

This book would be amazing for premarital counselling (there is an accompanying study

guide) and for newlyweds, to be able to start out on a solid foundation would be the ideal. But even someone who has been married for a decade like me, or even decades, would still find this beneficial and empowering. It is time for a change in the way the evangelical

church teaches about marriage and this is the…

I breathed a sigh of relief as I read through chapter one.

I had barley began it before a weight lifted from my shoulders.

I have been trying for so long ( despite deconstructing from many beliefs) to fit into this mould, and what's more, believe my partner needs to fit into a mould, that I believed was Biblical, yet doesn't fit our circumstances or personalities!

Highly recommend couples read this!